Children and divorce

I woke up this morning completely exhausted. I wish I could entertain you with a tale of a night of burning passion, candle light and red wine as an explanation for my exhaustion.

I can not.

You see we spentthe whole weekend,running after our children overseeing school projects,cartingthem off to parties (hell they had a more interesting social schedule), karate competitions and shopping.This hectic schedule started immediately after school on Friday with cricket matches and swimming galas.It continued throughout the weekend until we dropped on Sunday evening to sleep until death us do part, just to discover that a science project had to be put together to be handed in on Monday morning, first thing.

As a matter of fact,we can not complain.

This is our second marriage,each with a child from our previous marriages. The children live with us most of the time and they visit their other parents every second weekend and Wednesday evenings.

But while they live with us, it is physically and emotionally impossible to have this magic door to our bedroom. Where on the other side of this magic door, we have young teenagers causing mayhem with a cacophony of the TV blaring, music playing, bickering and eternal demands.

Whilst on our side of the magic door, to have candles burning, a bubble bath awaiting and serene music, remains unpractical.I mean we can not have a youngster bursting into the bedroom complaining about mosquitoes in his bedroom and asking me "Why are you tied to the bed naked?". He will phone the Police.

It is so that we can have the quick vanilla experience, but nothing as exotic and erotic as we would like.

I am not complaining. We enjoy their company and love them to bits. We laugh a lot and are in attendance at every school and sporting event, encouraging them.
On alternative weekends and Wednesday evenings we hand them over to their other parents without a hint of guilt or shame to spend blissful time together. Much needed time to recharge the sexual battery.Now we have the house to ourselves.Foreplay in the kitchen while preparing a special meal, starters in the dining room and the main course wherever we want.We can burn candles throughout the house, listen to our own music and on the odd occasion when we watch TV, will once again be the masters of the remote control.

Talking about a dining room, we bought a new dining room table and I have some devious ideas as to how inaugurate this magnificent piece of furniture on Wednesday night.I know that Tim will be agreeable to my ideas and will most definitely take some pictures.

I admire couples with children, who manage an exotic sex life, be it swinging, BDSM or pure romance and eroticism with children constantly around.I see it with friends and even bloggers on the sites I visit. Feelings of guilt, when a baby sitter or child minder or relative has to look after the children in order to spend some quality time together, is rife.

In my profession I often deal with couples with marital or relationship problems and found that there are couples who have been together for twenty years and have never spend an evening alone without their children.Has this perhaps caused the difficulty in the relationship and the extra marital affair?

There is always the juggle with family life,doing the right thing and to be as naughty as hell!

I am so fucking looking forward to Wednesday evening. I want obscene deeds to be done to me and enjoy every minute of it.I say this because I have just been interrupted by a sleepy child who remembered that it is her turn to take some cup cakes and cold drinks to school tomorrow for a chess team party.